You're Single?

Love Shay. Love Shara. Their situations are a little different, yet so similar.

Shay=> Been with baby's father, Kenta, on and off for 5 years. Baby's father is a great provider but fidelity isn't high on his list of priorities. She calls herself gaining some independence by getting her own place yet she drops everything she is doing to be at his beck and call. She does things to get his approval.
Shara=> Been with high school sweetheart, Seth, on and off for 7 years. He's a great guy, being there for her mentally and physically while she went through chemotherapy and radiation. He broke things off not because he wants to fool around, he is one of the faithful few, but because he feels he doesn't deserve her, and is trying to do something better with his life to earn her. She doesn't want to be there for him all the time, but she is. She doesn't want to care about what he may or may not like, but she does.

They both call themselves single. Physically they may be, but mentally? No, not at all. Shay's been talking to this guy from out of town. He asked to spend the night with her at her place. I expected her to say no because she has a son who is young and impressionable. She said no because "What would Kenta think, finding out I had some guy sleeping over?" Umm. He would think you have a f*ckin life for once?! He wasn't concerned about her feelings while he's impregnating all these other girls, so why is she concerned about his thoughts and feelings? Shara, hooking up with T and while with T, picks up Seth's phone calls, lies to him and pisses off T, because otherwise he will keep calling and it will get aggravating? It's called an IGNORE button, and they put that option there for a reason! Hell, it's called PUSHING THE POWER BUTTON.
See, THAT'S the kind of thing I'm talking about. How are you going to say you are single to the guys who approach you, but your actions say that you are in a relationship? I guess that's why I am single in every sense of the word, because I don't believe in that double talk nonsense.
It's funny because Shay and Shara get upset when other guys don't act the way they want him to. They say, "He knew what the deal was when we first go together." Naw dawg, YOU knew what the deal was. They thought the deal was- you are single so you don't have to answer to anyone but yourself. Just saying.

Loves and Likes Ya=> but keep it real, you ain't single if you checkin to make sure he ain't at the same club you're at.