The One That Got Away...

(Part I)

   So, it's Sista Sunday (the day me and my sister usually just hang out after church and whatnot) And among the many things we talk about, our my train of thoughts are sooo random, was "Eating Leftovers" and "The One That Got Away" Sounds funny right?

   What brings this topic about is...damn, what was it?...Umm, I think we were talking about her knuckleheaded ex? How she's barely paying him any attention (we'll have to see how long THAT lasts. Love my sis to death, but there's some kind of weird gravitational pull to that guy) and now he's calling and texting her all the time. She's all like- "Is this all I had to do?" and I'm all like- "Well, DUH!" and we got to talking about some of the guys we passed up in high school and how it would be to go out with them now.

   How come during high school, during the last couple o' months, I would always discover at least 2 guys that had some kind of crush on me? Never failed. E-V-E-R-Y year! I'd get that message in my yearbook "I always thought you were cute"  Well WOW! And you waited 'til the last week of school to give a sista girl a clue?! REALLY? And it always leave me to wonder- what if???? *cue dream sequence*

   After high school, I had a date with a "one that got away" He's a year older than me, tall mexican dude (hey- I don't discriminate) real laid-back personality. He first hit me up on MySpace (back when MySpace was on and POPPIN!) telling me how he still had the poems and notes I would write and wondered if we can hang out some time. Now, I knew he liked me back in high school but he never really acted on it. We went to the movies, went out to eat, went to Dave and Busters, and although those 3 outings were fun- I dunno. something was kinda missing. So I guess it's ok that he got away the first time

   On Facebook, Shawn contacted me. We hung out 8th and 9th grade. I always had an inkling that he liked me, but again- never acted on it (is it something about my character that intimidates guys? I PROMISE I hardly ever mean-mug) So- again- he's another one who kept all the notes we wrote back and forth (and WHAT IS WITH THAT? Guys are obviously just as sentimental as girls!) I do believe there's only a matter of time before he gathers the courage to ask me out.

   Another contact was made on Facebook. This one was from 11 YEARS AGO! We're talking about a guy I only knew for half of 7th grade year, when I lived in Atl and moved suddenly to Charlotte. WOOOOOOOW! I was BLOWN AWAY y'all. Because I had such a crush on this guy and it seemed like he liked me back- but this one chick was crazy obssessed with him and blocked my chances. So imagine my surprise when I get the message that starts off

"Are you the same --Chelle M------- that went to Campbell Middle School? If so, do you remember Chad C-------?"

HELL YEAH I REMEMBERED HIM! He was the same guy that almost ripped my heart out when he didn't dance with me at the school dance (thanks to my first case of cockblocking- middle finger to you wherever you are MORGAN!) The icing on the cake was he actually wrote that he considered me "the one that got away" back then. Say WHA?? So he asked me what I was doing for CIAA weekend, of course I'm working 3rd shift so I don't get to go to any of the parties. But nonetheless- we exchange numbers and we'll go out one night. Maybe Sunday or Monday.  With all the possibilities around the corner, why am I looking at "eating leftovers?" Part II coming!

Loves and Likes Ya!

Get Like ME???

So I've already told y'all about how I like to walk that talk. Now I find out that I'm an inspiration to some of my friends? WHAAA!!!??? lol.

 

My poor sis has problems with her on-again/off-again boyfriend. ( He's a cool dude but I loathe that whole breakup/makeup process) So she's making him an off  "permanently" and in order to get in that frame of mind she says to herself,

"What would Chelle do?"

How cool is that? I'm honored!

My friend Alaina is getting over a hard breakup and what is helping her through it (besides our margarita lunches/dinners)? Getting in a "Chelle" frame of mind *which is kinda scary to think about, seeing as my frame o mind tends to be a little crazy abstract* by living her life and just doing her thing THANG!

Trina is talking to her son about his choice of women (he's a pre-med major and not bad looking, so he's bait for gold diggers) She's telling him, you don't need a clingy girl (like all of his exes) you need a girl who is out doing her own thing and won't be chasing after you all the time. Someone like Chelle...

Who? MOI?!?

Well, the fact that Trina made that comment doesn't suprise me. She's been trying to marry me and her son for the past 2 years now. Although 'Shad and I are pretty good friends, he prefers his girlfriends...what's the word I'm looking for?... melanin challenged. But that doesn't stop her from saying to me, "You know he's gonna be a doctor? And you won't have to worry about your mother-in-law cause I'll leave y'all the hell alone." I know right?

So what about it? Do you really want to get like me? Let me tell you how....

3 WAYS TO GET IN THE CHELLE FRAME OF MIND: 

1. Let your imagination run free. People tell me things and vivid images pop into my mind. Somebody is telling me about their car trouble and through word association I'm laughing about the episode of Martin when that mechanic fixes Gina's car. 
2. Treat men like pieces of candy waiting to get bought at the store. I like to think of it as balancing out the double standard that is presented to us in our society. Yeah I'm a little deep like that 
3. Don't be afraid to laugh out loud, and for heaven's sake- crack a smile! Laughing can make any situation better and smiling can make anyone look more appealing.

Loves and Likes Ya!

Just Saying

I know that I don't really blog about current events, but something has been on my chest...

Who in the HELL do we think we are?

I understand that Tiger Woods is a role model to some, but who are we to demand for him to break his "silence"? We did the same thing when Chris and Rihanna went through their drama. I, personally, feel as if it's THEIR business. I don't understand why Tiger can't just settle his business with his wife- and that's that. Do we REALLY have to know all about their marital woes? So WHAT Tiger had some hoes? Most guys do- the only difference is he got CAUGHT! (on a sidenote though- Tiger thought he'd get away with that bs on that white girl, he wasn't expecting that sistagirl to come out of her. *snickers to myself*) 

So will I tune into the press conference? No, but I'll go on ahead and check out what my girl Tasha has to say about it on theybf.com

Loves and Likes Ya

Walk That Talk Girl!

I promise I don't like to do a lot of talking in a relationship. I PROMISE! Anjail says I go hard. T-Dubb says I'm a heartbreaker. I'm pretty sure Terry has told me that I can be a bit of an ice queen. I can't help it! I've been raised around a bunch of tough broads who don't take no shit. In result, I am the same way. Luckily I've had an awesome (if somewhat ecclectic) group of boyfriends. All of them as sweet as chocolate pudding pie *PAUSE*

I'm willing to accept that that may be one (out of many) reasons why I'm still single. I've never been the girl planning weddings and picking out baby names. I was the "hot-ass" little girl who flirted with all the guys. I mean, they called me a tease but I called them fun. It's all a game for me. Even now, I treat having a boyfriend with such a cavalier attitude that my boyfriends get confused. Somewhere along the line- they think I forget that we're together. NOT EVEN! I know that I am a selfish person who wants her space and would appreciate it if you stop breathing down my DAMN NECK. Sheesh.

Anyway- Back to the subject!

I've only had one boyfriend cheat on me. George 2DamnTrifling Dawkins. He was a senior and I was a junior. He cheated on me with a sophmore who looked like she can be the mascot for Kibbles N Bits *gosh Chelle, bitter much?* You know what pissed me off the most though? The fact that he had no business cheating on ANYONE looking the way he was looking! He should've been kissing my feet! And then he has the nerve to cheat on me with THAT? STOP! I was too through.  He was the last boyfriend to cheat on me.

I tell 'em upfront- DO NOT LIE and DO NOT CHEAT!  I don't care if you think it's gonna hurt my feelings, I'm a big girl, I'll work out my issues *with my waiting to exhale soundtrack, a brick, and your window :)*

All this drama that some of these girls like to keep in their life- not for me. Keep that drama on the TV and in the books because it doesn't belong in my life. I'm only giving a guy three strikes (maybe a little more if I like him but not extended past 5) And know this- a lot of girls talk it, but I walk it. I've been single before- it ain't nothing new to me! So when I believe that being with you is more of a chore instead of a good time- DEUCES. I'm gone.

Is it because I've never been in love; or because I've never had "the pipe" laid on me just right- that I can dismiss these guys so easily? I dunno...but until I figure it out- let me go on ahead and play my favorite new song!

Loves and Likes Ya


ATL Female MC- Rasheeda: Show Ya To The Door- Should be every girl's anthem.

DAG-FLABBIT!

Y'all! I AM SO PISSED! How about my sister heard that Carl Weber was in town- doing a book signing for the very book I JUST bought- and she didn't tell me y'all! She heard about it the day it happened, I was off, and she told me about it 3 DAYS LATER! The FUCK? I'm highly upset. She is soooo not getting my good jewelry when I check into the big library in the sky!

Things I've Learned...

So Anjail (my coworker) and I were snowed in at work last weekend. (I'll blog about that later because you know something happened)  We were cutting up and acting a plum fool in the great room area. In comes these two extended stay guests- both pieces of mancandy- and we hit em with the:

I know, I'm a mess! lol.

"Who are they?" Anjail asks me.

"Girl, they're a singing group. They call themselves- Every Gyrlz Fantasy."

"They sure are. When did they check in?"

"They've been here for a hot lil minute, I have NO idea when they're gonna check out though."

"Did they sing for you?"

"Girl, no. But they're good. Hold up, lemme pull up their page."

And I whip out my laptop and we do a little cyber-stalking (do not roll your eyes because you know you've done it before! lol)

There was once a time when I would attract nothing but people who were in the "music biz" You know, those guys who had notebooks with rhymes in it. Guys who have a keyboard and a PC and they call it their home studio.  Singers, rappers, DJ's, producers, and even a "talent manager" (Notice I am using quotations. That's because these guys liked to think of themselves of great self- import. I, on the other hand, did not) So while Anjail is daydreaming about her next BD*  (*Bad Decision- a guy who will have you saying to your bestie, "He's a no good jiggaboo. Why am I wasting my time? Tell me I'm wasting my time!") I'm thinking about the various:

THINGS I'VE LEARNED WHILE DATING SOMEONE IN THE "MUSIC BIZ"

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  An idea can pop into their head at any moment. Be it a lyric or a beat. So while you're droning on an on about the latest episode of Grey's Anatomy- he ain't payin attention to you! He's too busy being inspired.
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  Nothing is sacred. Most musicians draw from real life experiences, be it good or bad.
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  Be honest. If the lyric is wack, or the beat is wack- don't let them walk around with the big head- shoot that shit down! Because if you tell 'em that it's good but other people tell 'em it's wack- he's not gonna respect your opinion anymore and he'll question your taste.
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  There will be times when you don't hear from him for long period of times. He's not ignoring you or playing you to the left (at least not really on purpose 95% of the time) He's in the zone. And he'll appreciate it if you stop calling and/or texting him every 5 minutes, tryna do a body check.
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  There will be groupies. And that song he sung/rapped/produced with you in mind after a late night session- the groupie will think is for her. If that helps her sleep at night, go on ahead and let her think that. Set some guidelines early in your relationship about groupie behavior. Example:

"Lemme find out you were humpin' or slurpin' down some groupie ho. You and that trick will be lookin for y'all teeth on the side of the road with my size 8 shoe in yo' asses!" Something kinda like that will do, lol

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  There will be times when he doesn't want you to come with him to certain music events. I know how some of us women think, "Aww, he doesn't want me to come in case he embarasses himself. I'll still go to show him support." Yeah, that may be the case some of time but most of the time when he says he doesn't want you to come- you don't go!

Just a couple of things to keep into consideration if you happen to date a "rapper" "singer" "producer" or WHATEVA.

Loves and Likes Ya!


***As a bonus, I've included some good music. Take a listen to and thank me later!***









The Other Side- Let Me Show You: My favorite track off of their debut album. One of my exes (who I'm still good friends with) produced the album. Excuse my unabashed plug-in but if you like what you hear- download some free mixtapes at their website http://www.otherside.bandcamp.com/! Enjoy



Every Gyrlz Fantasy- In A While: These are the guests who are staying at our hotel now. And they are the coolest and some of the nicest guys I know. I hope they stay that way.



Eric Roberson- Couldn't Hear Me. The perfect song for a woman to listen to before she gets involved with a musician, so she can know what she's getting herself into.