Umm Chelle...

Shay: What are you listening to?
Me: You don't know nothin bout this girl.
Shay: Clearly not.
Me: Wait for it....
(Bass Drops)
Shay: Aww shit now!



Doing that final stretch of the drive home, I needed something to keep me up. I turned to 3OH!3- one of my guilty pleasure albums. I love them because they're like the love child of Lil Jon and Fred Durst. Shay called to see how far along I was from home and how I was doing when she heard the beginnings of the song. Of course she wanted to know who in the sam hill I was listening to and I knew she would fall in love with it once the bass dropped- and I was right! lol. It does knock quite nicely in the car.
**This is just a fan made video by the way**

Loves and Likes Ya

Ice Cold

So I Was Thinking...

   Are you one of those women who think their vagina is special? No, really. Do you think that your Ms. Kitty is so good that you have your man in check? I've never been that girl. Probably because I always felt like I could be replaced anyway. We won't dive into my issues but insight to my mother's past has made me into the bitter young woman I am today.
   Now I remember- I was reading a book (She Ain't The One by my two fave authors- Carl Weber and Mary B Morrison) in which the main character puts up with this chick who thought her sex was the bomb. She was mistaken. And that made me wonder how many times has that happened? How many times have you (whether you're a girl or guy) thought you had the best sex in your life? I'm talking about afterwards you're all sweaty, joints a little achy, breathing is kinda shallow, and you're slowly slipping into a comatose state but it's okay because you just KNOW that you Put.It.Down. But what if your partner disagrees? What if they think there was nothing spectacular about the episode? How would you feel?
   Yes there is a difference between making love and having sex. Sex is such a selfish act. You're doing what makes you feel good. Doing whatever helps you achieve euphoria. Now I know that there are some people who are selfless lovers, they get a rush from having their partners climb walls and break beds. What if it was a show?
   I'm asking these questions because they've been on my mind. Like I wrote earlier- I've never been the one to brag about my sexual prowess just because- people lie. I mean, giving oral sex is my gift to my partner but when it comes down to actual vaginal intercourse- I concentrate on my personal satisfaction.  Have I had a partner who thought they dicked me down to the point of paralysis when it was far from the truth? Yes. Fortunately I can count on one hand how many times that has happened. Well come to think of it, that was only D's crazy ass always with a damn point to prove. SMH. Anywho, just thinking, I know it's random.

Drake- Brand New. Perfect Song for the post. I even picked the video version with the lyrics flashing across the screen so you can have clarification! Yes, you are welcome. lol
 

Loves and Likes Ya=> hope the feeling is reciprocated

Something For Your Ears

I've been vibing with some songs lately. Let's start with:

Big Boi ft George Clinton & Too Short- For Yo Sorrows. Can I confess and say that I haven't even listened to the verses like that but the chorus is sooo sick! "...As I sit back in my chair, and smile from ear to ear with a fistful of your girlfriend's hair, yes she'll blow one tonight, for your sorrows."


Next is Ms. Teairra Mari. You couldn't tell me that she wasn't gonna kill it. So how did Rihannia get to this status while Ms. Mari is left on the curb? Dunno, but this mixtape is hot and this is one of my fave frivolous tracks. Teairra Mari ft Movado: Coins


Next on the club tip is Shanell from Young Money. Her stuff makes you want to dance and her mixtape is fire as well. Here goes Work Dat ft Mika Means! FYI: Please know that I am pouting because my top choice for this album, Me N My ft Eve, is nowhere to be found on YouTube so I can't share :(


Hey. Do you remember Jin? Won 106 & Park's Freestyle Friday a couple of years ago? Asian dude? Didn't think you'd remember. Well he released a mixtape that was pretty damn decent. Here goes a good one. Hard.


And while we're on rappers with different ethnicities, let's go to my fave group The Otherside. Fave tracks: (3)Let Me Show You, (6)Good Lookin' Ugly Girl and (7) the OOHLA=>This track is a beast. So poetic with it as he describes the song as if it's a lover. Niiiiice!



If you enjoy Dwele and Musiq and Jill, you will enjoy my boy Eric Roberson. Indie artist with a biiiiiig following. He wrote one of my fave Musiq tracks called Previouscats. This song, Only For You, is so sweet. It makes me smile everytime I listen to it.

 
And for the final one. Let's cross some genres. Plasticines- B.I.T.C.H. Song is TKA- Totally Kick Ass! lol

 
Loves and Likes Ya!

Sorry. I know I said it was the last one, but after mentioning this song, I HAD to post it! Musiq Soulchild- Previouscats. LISTEN to this song. It's on some serious grown man sh*t and I know plenty of people who can relate. Roberson lyrics are genius and hear him doing the background vocals. HEEEEY! Okay. I'm gone for real this time. ♥

Yeaaaaah Boooooy

I bummed some music from my dad and downloaded it to the 'Pod. The new Wu-Tang, Kweli, Freeway, The Roots, Big Boi, Dwele and B.o.B. And some new people- YahZarah and Sy Smith. I've only gotten through Big Boi (Good solid album. LOOOOVE Tangerine) and the minute I heard the intro to Dwele's album...oh. OH. What is it about good music that just...oh. It just moves your heart! I'm telling you- I was in the car just VIBING. I was gonna keep driving, just because I didn't want to interrupt the flow of the album. Good stuff. And it's been too long since I've heard a gooood album like that. Here goes one of my favorite tracks with another of my fave singers, Raheem DeVaughn:

GASP! I'm a...MUSIC SNOB?!

 I try not to discriminate when it comes to music, Lord knows my musical tastes have always been a bit questionable. I mean really- how many 12 year old black girls you know that loved to listen to Prince and Aerosmith? But the face I made when my cousin from up north asked why I don't have more Wacka and OJ and Gucci in my iPod? That shit was PRICELESS!

Looking back at it now though, why did I respond the way I did? Is it because even though I get hype off of a little Gucci, in the back of my mind I know that this is straight coon music? And by coon music, I mean music with lyrics that degrade our community and don't contribute with a story. Am I any better just because I have some Common, Malik Yusef, Lupe and Wale in my Pod? You know, Wacka and 'em, somebody is vibing with their music because they're making more money than I am and the radio is playing it in rotation. They're making their music and having their dreams come true, so who am I to shoot them down just because it may not, particularly, be my cup of tea. I'm all for shaking my ass and wanting to start a fight in the club off a song, not mad at it at all. So let me bring my nose down from the clouds.

Loves and Likes Ya => no matter who you listen to

Walk That Talk Girl!

I promise I don't like to do a lot of talking in a relationship. I PROMISE! Anjail says I go hard. T-Dubb says I'm a heartbreaker. I'm pretty sure Terry has told me that I can be a bit of an ice queen. I can't help it! I've been raised around a bunch of tough broads who don't take no shit. In result, I am the same way. Luckily I've had an awesome (if somewhat ecclectic) group of boyfriends. All of them as sweet as chocolate pudding pie *PAUSE*

I'm willing to accept that that may be one (out of many) reasons why I'm still single. I've never been the girl planning weddings and picking out baby names. I was the "hot-ass" little girl who flirted with all the guys. I mean, they called me a tease but I called them fun. It's all a game for me. Even now, I treat having a boyfriend with such a cavalier attitude that my boyfriends get confused. Somewhere along the line- they think I forget that we're together. NOT EVEN! I know that I am a selfish person who wants her space and would appreciate it if you stop breathing down my DAMN NECK. Sheesh.

Anyway- Back to the subject!

I've only had one boyfriend cheat on me. George 2DamnTrifling Dawkins. He was a senior and I was a junior. He cheated on me with a sophmore who looked like she can be the mascot for Kibbles N Bits *gosh Chelle, bitter much?* You know what pissed me off the most though? The fact that he had no business cheating on ANYONE looking the way he was looking! He should've been kissing my feet! And then he has the nerve to cheat on me with THAT? STOP! I was too through.  He was the last boyfriend to cheat on me.

I tell 'em upfront- DO NOT LIE and DO NOT CHEAT!  I don't care if you think it's gonna hurt my feelings, I'm a big girl, I'll work out my issues *with my waiting to exhale soundtrack, a brick, and your window :)*

All this drama that some of these girls like to keep in their life- not for me. Keep that drama on the TV and in the books because it doesn't belong in my life. I'm only giving a guy three strikes (maybe a little more if I like him but not extended past 5) And know this- a lot of girls talk it, but I walk it. I've been single before- it ain't nothing new to me! So when I believe that being with you is more of a chore instead of a good time- DEUCES. I'm gone.

Is it because I've never been in love; or because I've never had "the pipe" laid on me just right- that I can dismiss these guys so easily? I dunno...but until I figure it out- let me go on ahead and play my favorite new song!

Loves and Likes Ya


ATL Female MC- Rasheeda: Show Ya To The Door- Should be every girl's anthem.

Things I've Learned...

So Anjail (my coworker) and I were snowed in at work last weekend. (I'll blog about that later because you know something happened)  We were cutting up and acting a plum fool in the great room area. In comes these two extended stay guests- both pieces of mancandy- and we hit em with the:

I know, I'm a mess! lol.

"Who are they?" Anjail asks me.

"Girl, they're a singing group. They call themselves- Every Gyrlz Fantasy."

"They sure are. When did they check in?"

"They've been here for a hot lil minute, I have NO idea when they're gonna check out though."

"Did they sing for you?"

"Girl, no. But they're good. Hold up, lemme pull up their page."

And I whip out my laptop and we do a little cyber-stalking (do not roll your eyes because you know you've done it before! lol)

There was once a time when I would attract nothing but people who were in the "music biz" You know, those guys who had notebooks with rhymes in it. Guys who have a keyboard and a PC and they call it their home studio.  Singers, rappers, DJ's, producers, and even a "talent manager" (Notice I am using quotations. That's because these guys liked to think of themselves of great self- import. I, on the other hand, did not) So while Anjail is daydreaming about her next BD*  (*Bad Decision- a guy who will have you saying to your bestie, "He's a no good jiggaboo. Why am I wasting my time? Tell me I'm wasting my time!") I'm thinking about the various:

THINGS I'VE LEARNED WHILE DATING SOMEONE IN THE "MUSIC BIZ"

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  An idea can pop into their head at any moment. Be it a lyric or a beat. So while you're droning on an on about the latest episode of Grey's Anatomy- he ain't payin attention to you! He's too busy being inspired.
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  Nothing is sacred. Most musicians draw from real life experiences, be it good or bad.
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  Be honest. If the lyric is wack, or the beat is wack- don't let them walk around with the big head- shoot that shit down! Because if you tell 'em that it's good but other people tell 'em it's wack- he's not gonna respect your opinion anymore and he'll question your taste.
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  There will be times when you don't hear from him for long period of times. He's not ignoring you or playing you to the left (at least not really on purpose 95% of the time) He's in the zone. And he'll appreciate it if you stop calling and/or texting him every 5 minutes, tryna do a body check.
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  There will be groupies. And that song he sung/rapped/produced with you in mind after a late night session- the groupie will think is for her. If that helps her sleep at night, go on ahead and let her think that. Set some guidelines early in your relationship about groupie behavior. Example:

"Lemme find out you were humpin' or slurpin' down some groupie ho. You and that trick will be lookin for y'all teeth on the side of the road with my size 8 shoe in yo' asses!" Something kinda like that will do, lol

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  There will be times when he doesn't want you to come with him to certain music events. I know how some of us women think, "Aww, he doesn't want me to come in case he embarasses himself. I'll still go to show him support." Yeah, that may be the case some of time but most of the time when he says he doesn't want you to come- you don't go!

Just a couple of things to keep into consideration if you happen to date a "rapper" "singer" "producer" or WHATEVA.

Loves and Likes Ya!


***As a bonus, I've included some good music. Take a listen to and thank me later!***









The Other Side- Let Me Show You: My favorite track off of their debut album. One of my exes (who I'm still good friends with) produced the album. Excuse my unabashed plug-in but if you like what you hear- download some free mixtapes at their website http://www.otherside.bandcamp.com/! Enjoy



Every Gyrlz Fantasy- In A While: These are the guests who are staying at our hotel now. And they are the coolest and some of the nicest guys I know. I hope they stay that way.



Eric Roberson- Couldn't Hear Me. The perfect song for a woman to listen to before she gets involved with a musician, so she can know what she's getting herself into.