Things I've Learned...

So Anjail (my coworker) and I were snowed in at work last weekend. (I'll blog about that later because you know something happened)  We were cutting up and acting a plum fool in the great room area. In comes these two extended stay guests- both pieces of mancandy- and we hit em with the:

I know, I'm a mess! lol.

"Who are they?" Anjail asks me.

"Girl, they're a singing group. They call themselves- Every Gyrlz Fantasy."

"They sure are. When did they check in?"

"They've been here for a hot lil minute, I have NO idea when they're gonna check out though."

"Did they sing for you?"

"Girl, no. But they're good. Hold up, lemme pull up their page."

And I whip out my laptop and we do a little cyber-stalking (do not roll your eyes because you know you've done it before! lol)

There was once a time when I would attract nothing but people who were in the "music biz" You know, those guys who had notebooks with rhymes in it. Guys who have a keyboard and a PC and they call it their home studio.  Singers, rappers, DJ's, producers, and even a "talent manager" (Notice I am using quotations. That's because these guys liked to think of themselves of great self- import. I, on the other hand, did not) So while Anjail is daydreaming about her next BD*  (*Bad Decision- a guy who will have you saying to your bestie, "He's a no good jiggaboo. Why am I wasting my time? Tell me I'm wasting my time!") I'm thinking about the various:

THINGS I'VE LEARNED WHILE DATING SOMEONE IN THE "MUSIC BIZ"

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  An idea can pop into their head at any moment. Be it a lyric or a beat. So while you're droning on an on about the latest episode of Grey's Anatomy- he ain't payin attention to you! He's too busy being inspired.
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  Nothing is sacred. Most musicians draw from real life experiences, be it good or bad.
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  Be honest. If the lyric is wack, or the beat is wack- don't let them walk around with the big head- shoot that shit down! Because if you tell 'em that it's good but other people tell 'em it's wack- he's not gonna respect your opinion anymore and he'll question your taste.
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  There will be times when you don't hear from him for long period of times. He's not ignoring you or playing you to the left (at least not really on purpose 95% of the time) He's in the zone. And he'll appreciate it if you stop calling and/or texting him every 5 minutes, tryna do a body check.
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  There will be groupies. And that song he sung/rapped/produced with you in mind after a late night session- the groupie will think is for her. If that helps her sleep at night, go on ahead and let her think that. Set some guidelines early in your relationship about groupie behavior. Example:

"Lemme find out you were humpin' or slurpin' down some groupie ho. You and that trick will be lookin for y'all teeth on the side of the road with my size 8 shoe in yo' asses!" Something kinda like that will do, lol

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  There will be times when he doesn't want you to come with him to certain music events. I know how some of us women think, "Aww, he doesn't want me to come in case he embarasses himself. I'll still go to show him support." Yeah, that may be the case some of time but most of the time when he says he doesn't want you to come- you don't go!

Just a couple of things to keep into consideration if you happen to date a "rapper" "singer" "producer" or WHATEVA.

Loves and Likes Ya!


***As a bonus, I've included some good music. Take a listen to and thank me later!***









The Other Side- Let Me Show You: My favorite track off of their debut album. One of my exes (who I'm still good friends with) produced the album. Excuse my unabashed plug-in but if you like what you hear- download some free mixtapes at their website http://www.otherside.bandcamp.com/! Enjoy



Every Gyrlz Fantasy- In A While: These are the guests who are staying at our hotel now. And they are the coolest and some of the nicest guys I know. I hope they stay that way.



Eric Roberson- Couldn't Hear Me. The perfect song for a woman to listen to before she gets involved with a musician, so she can know what she's getting herself into.